The christian thing to do??

My familty has been chaotic for as long as I can remember people always talking about and undermining each other. My dad is supposed to be a saved man and all he does is dam everyone and bring up peoples past mistakes to prove his points and make them feel bad, he has caused so much division and pain in the family that its unbelieveable. My mother who is not his wife anymore is wreckless and constantly does irresponsible things and burdens everyone when her crazy plans don't work out. She has borrowed so much money from me that I feel nervous when I see her coming and she makes 4 times what I make in a year. She always wants me to share what I have with my other brothers and sisters but fails to see that I dont have anything and giving them the little that I have will set me back and make me depend them to help me in return when they cant help themselves. She constantly over extends herself which has cost her house, brought lawsuits, cars, and she gets mad when I wont be like her......